Bullies with “Target Derangement Syndrome” hold extremely biased opinions about their targets- views that aren’t founded or developed from any evidence of facts. No, their judgments of the targets come from intense emotions alone. And no amount of data, substantial evidence, rational thought, or reason will ever change their minds about their target. These people […]

Bullies, Bystanders, Willful Ignorance, Self-Deceit, and Blind Hatred — Chateau Cherie

Important article from Cherie relating to bullying – Get educated and follow her posts

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Being aware of the underlying pathology of bullies

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It’s because bullies need scapegoats. The use of a scapegoat is nothing new. People have used them for many millennia! During the Medieval Period, scapegoats were often used by kings to make sure the monarch’s hands stayed clean- or at least looked clean. Back then, it was common practice to execute scapegoats for the wrongdoings […]

Why Bullies “Need” Their Targets — Chateau Cherie

Further updates from Cherie on bullying

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Part 2 …Middle school and high school were periods of time during which- right, wrong, good, bad, ugly or indifferent everything, according to everyone in that awkward age group, was shameful and the definition of what was good or bad (or cool) became blurred and not so clear anymore. 1,022 more words

Excerpts to the upcoming book, “A Mile in Charlotte’s Shoes” – Bullying, Social Politics, and the Power Dynamic. (Part 2) — Chateau Cherie

Tolerance and acceptance are two very different meanings. Using language to undress a problem goes a long way to protecting yourself. One thing bullies don’t have in their armoury!

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When people talk of tolerance, I immediately cringe. I don’t find the word very attractive because let’s be real here. The word itself has an ugly ring to it. To put it bluntly, it sounds downright gross! Sadly, many targets of bullying are so afraid of being alone that they settle for friends who aren’t […]

Are You Being Accepted or Only Tolerated? — Chateau Cherie

Positve responses to a bully can help you stay in control

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A sincere apology and owning up to any error often show great strength and bravery. It takes a person with integrity to apologize for any wrongdoing because few people will admit they are “wrong”. However, an apology or admission, no matter how sincere or genuine, can also be taken as a sign of weakness in […]

Better Safe Than Sorry: Why You Shouldn’t Apologize in the Presence of Bullies — Chateau Cherie

In Part 1, we discussed frenemies and the gradual but growing hot/cold, waxing and waning in their behavior, which snowballs into a terrible lashing of venom that leaves a target both shocked and hurt. Again, if you’ve ever found yourself on the receiving end of a frenemy’s poison, rest assured that none of it was […]

A More In-Depth Explanation of Frenemies (Part 2) — Chateau Cherie

Good advice from Cherie on Frenemies

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Well written article by Cherie on facing the onslaught of bullying experienced by many both online and offline.

If they destroy your confidence, they’ll destroy your life. It’s a fact! If your confidence goes, your performance in school, or on the job, your social abilities, everything else will go too. Think about it. Most bullied people do not do well in school or in the workplace if others do not treat them with […]

9 Ways to Buffer Your Confidence from the Onslaught of Bullying — Chateau Cherie

Having a strategy to counter some of these excuses made by, no doubt well meaning people, is vital if we are to educate others about the harm bullies cause.

As we know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars and have a flair for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority. Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is fake. It is all a part of the smokescreen they put up to hoodwink people, cover up bad behavior, and avoid accountability. In short, bullies…

Excuses Bystanders and Authority Often Make for a Bully — Chateau Cherie